If you, like many, have been shamed in your past (when you were a child), I have something to share. There is a reason I write 'like many' when I talk about shame.
The problem with people is not that they have gone through all that they have. The problem with people is that they are fearful of voicing it out. Of accepting that something terrible has happened to them. We live in a strange society. Where everyone wants to know about the good things and wants to run away form the juicy, meaty stuff of the problems and the past. Not because they aren't interested, but Because, somewhere deep down, it reminds them of similar things which happened to them as well.
It is really interesting to notice, how, when one person starts to share about their issues, others open up too. This is a sign that we have collectively bottled up so many emotions for so long. Shame, being one of them. And a pretty influencing one. It takes a great deal of courage to be able to speak up openly. Because that shows that a person is in touch with their truth. Their emotions. If nothing else.
And this is the key. For any individual. To deal with shame and guilt. To become aware and open up. Face those emotions and let the child inside of you cry. Cry out loud. Without any fear of judgement about what are people going to think of me, and blah blah blah..
Because this is how a child is. Naive. Open. Curious. Fearless. And most of all FREE. Free of all the judgements and criticism. To allow your inner child to resurface and become happy, is to allow your self to be free. Free agian. From the chains of the rules and regulations of the society. Free from the clutches of judgments and guilt.
By this I don't mean that outrightly become a rebel everywhere. Of course, it is your choice if you would like to! However, what I mean is this. Allow yourself to feel. Allow yourself to have fun. Allow yourself to be that kid again. Allow yourself some pampering. Allow yourself a good meal without worrying about the calories and allow yourself a nice treat without really thinking of the responsibilities once in a while. Because it is these 'once in a whiles' which will help you in maintaining your emotional and mental balance to a great extent.
How can doing all this help? How can working with inner child bring about a balance? Stay tuned..
To be continued..
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