When the escape becomes your routine..

So what happens when all the emotions come crashing down when the routine has set in or you are accustomed to your new life?

It's quiet possible that all the emotions feel stronger than ever. Like, you have been never hurt like that before. The past is clear in your eyes and the grief is still fresh. It can be quiet tough at this point in time to allow your emotions to fully come up and feel them. After all, this is what you have been running away from, all this while! So in such situations what should you do?

Here are a few points you want to consider to help you in grieving fully:

- Become Aware of your feelings. The first step is always acknowledging them.

- ACCEPT. Accept the past. This can be the most difficult of all things to do. Acceptance brings peace. Try to accept your past. I know it's easier said than done. However acceptance is an important aspect.

- Allow the feelings to come up. This will happen immediately after acceptance (if you have accepted). The hurt and pain will show up. Let it. Or else if you haven't accepted yet, allowing the pain to come up will help.

- Feel your emotions fully. And then RELEASE them. What majority of us don't realize is that we have to feel and release. Not feel and hold back to feel some more at a later point. So. Feel and release.

- Use ways which will help you in releasing. It could be sad music, or a material object associated to your grief, or simply writing all the past on a piece of paper. Give it a tangible form and the release process will turn out better.

- And last but not the least, know that it is your feelings. Your emotions. It will take time. And patience. So be patient with Your self. For some, the grief is so strong and built up over decades, and for some it is built up in layers and layers over connecting issues at times, so it naturally takes a lot of releasing and feeling the pain again and again. It will take time. Be gentle with yourself. As you release bit by bit.

- And to make sure that anything else DOESN'T collect in your mind body and system, from now on, give yourself the freedom to feel your most intense emotions fully. And let them go. FEEL. AND. RELEASE. This, my friend, is also being TRUE to yourself.

The most important aspect here being, being patient and gentle with yourself. The grieving process can be intense and tiring. Allow yourself time and enough space. Allow yourself to feel fully and then let it all go. I have realized this one simple thing..

The moment I accept my past, is the moment peace replaces the feelings of anger and hurt and pain.. It's all about accepting the past. And knowing that IT HAS HAPPENED. And nothing else can be done except making peace with it.

This affirmation really helpes in accepting all that is:

I now fully accept my past as it was. I choose to make peace with it.

Say this affirmation 21 times each, 3 times a day for 40 days. And you will definitely notice the difference.

BLESSED BE.. 💙💚💙