Victimhood. A serious matter. Part 5

✨ VICTIMISATION. A serious matter. Part 5

We have fairly understood by now what it is, and feels like to be a victim or be around one. So now, let me tell you this. It is very much possible for anyone to come out of the victim mode.

It all starts from a conscious choice! The victim needs to make a conscious decision. Of coming out of that energy. Until then, it is barely possible to help them.

Here are 9 conscious steps that you or anyone can take to help yourself or the victim around you:

1. MAKE THE CHOICE.
Yes. That's the first thing a victim needs to do. Make the choice of setting themselves free. Only then can the following steps be of any use. Decide. And then stick to that decision no matter what.

2. FACE THE EMOTIONS.
Face it. Whatever has been bothering the victim, they should face it upfront. Hiding from the emotions or latching on to them will only enhance that energy. It is vital for every victim that they face THEMSELVES. Their deepest, darkest self. The fears and the emotions. Everything suppressed for long.

3. LET GO.
The most difficult part for anyone. Let alone the victim. However, it is of prime importance that the victim really releases all that energy or better yet transmute it into something positive. The energy of sadness, grief, hurt, pain, why me, why does it all happen to me, etc, etc, needs to go. IT REALLY NEEDS TO GO. So letting go of the past and healing it is a very important step towards the healing of the victim.

4. FORGIVE SELF AND OTHERS.
Forgiveness is the ultimate tool. Forgiving one self before anyone else is going to be very uplifting and healing. The victim needs to understand that whatever has happened, has happened. And that, now there is no point feeling guilty about it. So forgiving self and then, everyone involved is going to accelerate the entire process of the victim's healing and well being.

5. ASK FOR HELP.
The victim also needs to be aware that asking for help, being vulnerable, and being open about how they feel and what they need is not a sign of weakness. It is infact a sign of strength. They have to learn to communicate thier problems, their needs to others. Once their loved ones and their family gets involved, it becomes easy for the victim to feel whole and complete again.

6. SEE JOY AND HAPPINESS IN EVERYTHING.
When the victim is in that energy, the first thing they do is, block all joys and happiness from their mind, and thus their life. They have to learn to see the joys in little things. They have to take the effort to see happiness in any and every situation. Only then can they truly come back into their whole self. This, is by far the most essential step towards coming out of the trapped energy.

7. BE PATIENT AND GENTLE WITH SELF AND OTHERS.
When the victim starts to realize the impact and decides to come out of it, another thing to keep in mind is to be patient and gentle with self as well as others around. Doing all of the above, can take its own sweet time. The key is not get disheartened about it and keep at it, no matter what. It's quiet possible that the victim may have invited sourness into their relationships because of the prolonged attachment to that state. And so, it is really vital to understand that things which have accumulated over time will also need time to clear. It's not a days job. Being patient with self and more importantly being gentle on self is necessary. And so is being gentle with everyone around.

8. LEARN FROM THE PAST. AND MOVE AHEAD.
One of the most important things the victim forgets to do is, know that every experience brings a lesson and a gift with it. Only when the victim is ready to learn from the past experiences can they become truly aware of what gifts unfold for them from the entire experience. Therefore, without fail, the victim must look into what was their major learning from their past. And integrate it. And thus, aviod any similar situation in the coming times. As they say, what we don't repair, we repeat. And learning the lesson is necessary for repairing.

9. MAKE DIFFERENT CHOICES.
And last but not the least, the person must be aware of what choices they are making. They should strive to make choices differently. And not from the previous space and energy. After learning the lesson and integrating it, operating from the new space and zone of energy is important. Thus, they must make choices which reflect their changed energy. Until this happens, all the steps mentioned above are almost in vain.

Now you know, you or anyone who feels stuck in this energy can come out of it, given that they strive towards it and make it happen. They just have to stick to their decision with unwavering faith. And know that everything happens for a reason. It's these experiences we go through which make or break us. It is in our hands what do we allow. To be broken. Or to be built of them. Aho!!