✨ VICTIMISATION. A serious matter.
Understanding that all of us go through the energy of being a victim, at some point of time or the other is important. That doesn't mean that it turns anyone bad. It only puts one in a state of constant sadness and disappointment, when the victim chooses to be in that state 24x7.
Many a times, we are hurt by the ones we love, go through stages of disappointment or heart break, or are faced by severe circumstances. During times like these, it is only natural to question the universe and feel "why me?"
This why me leads a person to getting into victimhood. Where all he/she can think about is the efforts he/she put to get the doomed fate in return.
Think about a time when you may have asked yourself - "why me?" Or "what wrong have I done to deserve a fate/condition/situation like this?" I am sure, you will come across something or the other which made you think in this manner. What I want you to know is this - ITS OKAY.
It is absolutely okay to feel disappointed or sad or hurt or angry. What is not okay, is to stick to that feeling. What is not okay, is to stay in that energy for more than the required time. And it is definitely not okay to overlook and not learn from that situation.
Here are 4 reasons why a Victim chooses to stay in that energy all the time:
1. ATTRACTS ATTENTION:
Being a Victim calls out for attention. And the victim enjoys the personal attention being given to them by their family and friends. Deep dowm, at the subconscious level, this is what they crave for. Attention, affection and care. And when they notice, being a victim gives them exactly that, they knowingly or unknowingly choose to stay in that energy.
2. IT PUTS A STOPPER TO TAKING ACTION.
Victimhood can make a person go from dynamic to dull in minutes. Becuase of the turbulent or the sad energy, they hold back from taking on anything new or divulging in the same sort of situation again. Which, is basically an act of the subconscious mind to prevent the person from feeling the same hurt, pain or trauma again. They conveniently become lethargic and in the name of fear, do not attempt anything similar. Which, could be the only way out of victimhood at times. Being a Victim is an easy way to NOT take responsibility.
3. SYMPATHY.
One of the greatest perks of being a victim is that it attracts a lot of sympathy from others. And thus, the judgements people have about the victim are also dropped to a great extent. This, is one easy way of saving oneself from the fear of judgement. Being a Victim allows them to put the blame on anything; but them.
4. THEY KNOW THAT THEY PLAY THE VICTIM AND ENJOY IT.
Believe it or not, at some point the victim knows that they are dragging the energy and still, they enjoy the benefits (all the points above). Also, they like to pretend to be an example of how to be strong. Which earns them praise and appreciation. Reverse psychology!!! Again, this is what a victim subconsciously desired. They ENJOY being in that energy. It is home to them. They fear coming out of that, and being responsible for thier actions.
All these, can keep a person addicted to being a victim all the time. How do you know if you are falling into this trap of addiction, and what can you do about it? Coming up in the next writeup. Stay tuned. Aho! 🧡🧡🧡
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