Victimhood. A serious matter. Part 3

While the perks of being are many, it definitely is not a healthy state to be in, mentally, physically and emotionally. Knowingly or unknowingly, being addicted to the state of victimhood can block progress and growth in all areas of life.

How do you know if you are or someone you know, is falling into the trap of being addicted to victimhood? Well, from the previous two posts, you may have understood, it isn't that diffucult to make out. However these points can help you in deciphering the same.

1. You definitely enjoy all the attention and sympathy you get while playing the victim.

2. You don't want to learn from your past/mistakes. You become totally ignorant to the fact that there can be an important learning for you embedded in those situations.

3. You feel sad and bad about everything. Your emotional intelligence alomst comes down to zero and even the smallest of joke hits you hard.

4. You feel targeted all the time. You feel people are always planning and plotting against you.

5. People start to maintain a distance from you after a while. Because honestly, no one wants to hear sad stories all the time.

6. You like to be alone too and constantly find yourself thinking about the same thing again and again. You like to replay the past in your mind over and over and feel bad about it.

7. You keep questioning "why me?" all the time. You feel people aren't caring enough inspite of you doing so much for them.

8. You feel people don't care. You feel no one appreciates you and you develop low self confidence and battered self esteem.

9. Physically, you feel dull and tired. You feel drained most of the time. There is no energy in your body and you aren't excited about anything. Or feel you don't have anything to look forward to.

10. You cannot help but talk more negative than positive. All you have to offer is warnings and more warnings to people around you. Because you feel you should keep them away from the same hurt and pain you have gone through.

While some of you would resonate with all the points, some of you may see yourself only doing certain things. Please understand, its okay to feel all that is mentioned above. But not to the point that you get entangled in those ways.

Each one of us feels all or some of these things some time or the other. However, it is truly in your hands alone to get stuck or move out of that zone and be an example to many others. Tell you what! There are many out there who have gone through worse and still have managed to lead a happy and healthy life. You are not alone. If others can do it, so can you.

Victimhood is a serious matter. Much deeper than what we can fathom. Both physically and emotionally. What happens if you stay in that ebergy for long and what can you do about it? Coming up in the next write up. Aho! 💙💙💙