Victimhood. A serious matter. Part 5

✨ VICTIMISATION. A serious matter. Part 5

We have fairly understood by now what it is, and feels like to be a victim or be around one. So now, let me tell you this. It is very much possible for anyone to come out of the victim mode.

It all starts from a conscious choice! The victim needs to make a conscious decision. Of coming out of that energy. Until then, it is barely possible to help them.

Here are 9 conscious steps that you or anyone can take to help yourself or the victim around you:

1. MAKE THE CHOICE.
Yes. That's the first thing a victim needs to do. Make the choice of setting themselves free. Only then can the following steps be of any use. Decide. And then stick to that decision no matter what.

2. FACE THE EMOTIONS.
Face it. Whatever has been bothering the victim, they should face it upfront. Hiding from the emotions or latching on to them will only enhance that energy. It is vital for every victim that they face THEMSELVES. Their deepest, darkest self. The fears and the emotions. Everything suppressed for long.

3. LET GO.
The most difficult part for anyone. Let alone the victim. However, it is of prime importance that the victim really releases all that energy or better yet transmute it into something positive. The energy of sadness, grief, hurt, pain, why me, why does it all happen to me, etc, etc, needs to go. IT REALLY NEEDS TO GO. So letting go of the past and healing it is a very important step towards the healing of the victim.

4. FORGIVE SELF AND OTHERS.
Forgiveness is the ultimate tool. Forgiving one self before anyone else is going to be very uplifting and healing. The victim needs to understand that whatever has happened, has happened. And that, now there is no point feeling guilty about it. So forgiving self and then, everyone involved is going to accelerate the entire process of the victim's healing and well being.

5. ASK FOR HELP.
The victim also needs to be aware that asking for help, being vulnerable, and being open about how they feel and what they need is not a sign of weakness. It is infact a sign of strength. They have to learn to communicate thier problems, their needs to others. Once their loved ones and their family gets involved, it becomes easy for the victim to feel whole and complete again.

6. SEE JOY AND HAPPINESS IN EVERYTHING.
When the victim is in that energy, the first thing they do is, block all joys and happiness from their mind, and thus their life. They have to learn to see the joys in little things. They have to take the effort to see happiness in any and every situation. Only then can they truly come back into their whole self. This, is by far the most essential step towards coming out of the trapped energy.

7. BE PATIENT AND GENTLE WITH SELF AND OTHERS.
When the victim starts to realize the impact and decides to come out of it, another thing to keep in mind is to be patient and gentle with self as well as others around. Doing all of the above, can take its own sweet time. The key is not get disheartened about it and keep at it, no matter what. It's quiet possible that the victim may have invited sourness into their relationships because of the prolonged attachment to that state. And so, it is really vital to understand that things which have accumulated over time will also need time to clear. It's not a days job. Being patient with self and more importantly being gentle on self is necessary. And so is being gentle with everyone around.

8. LEARN FROM THE PAST. AND MOVE AHEAD.
One of the most important things the victim forgets to do is, know that every experience brings a lesson and a gift with it. Only when the victim is ready to learn from the past experiences can they become truly aware of what gifts unfold for them from the entire experience. Therefore, without fail, the victim must look into what was their major learning from their past. And integrate it. And thus, aviod any similar situation in the coming times. As they say, what we don't repair, we repeat. And learning the lesson is necessary for repairing.

9. MAKE DIFFERENT CHOICES.
And last but not the least, the person must be aware of what choices they are making. They should strive to make choices differently. And not from the previous space and energy. After learning the lesson and integrating it, operating from the new space and zone of energy is important. Thus, they must make choices which reflect their changed energy. Until this happens, all the steps mentioned above are almost in vain.

Now you know, you or anyone who feels stuck in this energy can come out of it, given that they strive towards it and make it happen. They just have to stick to their decision with unwavering faith. And know that everything happens for a reason. It's these experiences we go through which make or break us. It is in our hands what do we allow. To be broken. Or to be built of them. Aho!!

Victimhood. A serious matter. Part 4

✨ VICTIMISATION. A serious matter.

Like mentioned earlier, the victim doesn't like to aclnowledge the fact that they are getting into victimhood, let alone accept it. And therefore, they aren't able to perceive the harm it inflicts upon them and others around. While we may not be able to look through the sadness and the behaviour of the victim, it causes them much more harm than we could possibly imagine. It is, in one word SELF SABOTAGING.

These are 5 major things that the victim is inviting in their life by being in that energy more than required.

1. MENTAL HEALTH
First and foremost, the mental health of the victim is affected to a great extent. Choosing to stay in that energy kills the capacity to genuinely see and feel happiness in a person. They block all joys of life and turn gloomy. This, according to me, is the first step to self sabotage. Until a person chooses to, no one and I mean, no one, on this planet can help them. Coming out of it, learning from it and healing self, is primarily a chioce. Only when this choice is made, can other people or modalities effect them. Think. Can anyone make you happy until YOU decide to smile? That's what I mean. That choice is totally neglected by the victim. Their choice is always the past/hurt/pain.

2. THEY BECOME WEAK EMOTIONALLY.
Obvious this one, isn't it? Emotionally, the victim is always at their weakest. This is because, in reality, they do not want to breakdown emotionally. The victim is petrified to look into the depths of their emotional state. For the fear of experiencing the pain again. In order to escape from the hurt, they lock their emotions up and do not allow their emotions to flow and get released from their mind, body and energy. Holding on to those experiences and emotions deep down, the victim is just reinforcing tbeir beliefs in hurt and pain, and subconsciously, they attract more and more of it.

3. PHYSICAL DAMAGE.
All the physical dis-eases and ailments in the body have an emotional root cause. Until and unless that emotional cause is cleared the effects of it keep showing up in the physical body in some form or the other. The victim doesn't realize that they are inviting health troubles. Because they aren't ready to accept the deeply rooted enotional pain, let alone heal and release it. Depending on what the emotional state is, the victim, in the long run attracts health issues. For example, holding on to resentment and past hurt is the root of all cancers. And that is not some thing people experience every day. It is a result of years and years of holding on to hurt and pain. The victim who feels they aren't supported may attract back and lower back problems. Over time, the energy of victimhood does take a toll on the physical body.

4. THEY ABSORB ANY UNWANTED EBERGY QUICKLY.
With a devastated state, mentally and emotionally, the aure of the victim is neither whole nor healed. There may be cracks and leaks in their electro magnetic field. Which drains them quickly and also allow for any unwanted energy to quickly slip into them. Thus, they become susceptible to infections and psychic attacks more often than anyone can imagine. And as they say, like attracts like, they end up in situations which make them feel the same, time and time again.

5. A STATE OF DEPRESSION.
This, probably is the final stage a victim could get to. It's important to understand that feeling victimized and feeling depressed are two different things. There is still hope and better scope for healing at the stage of victimhood as compared to getting someone out of depression. When the victim reaches a point in their mind that talking about their problems or even looking at them is of no use becuase this is what they wilk feel over and over again, they subconsciously accept this state as their reality and carry on with their lives, they have reached a state of depression. They lose all hope and accept it as theie fate and do nothing about it. And once there, it can be a task to help them come out of it. Becuase, they don't choose to do anything about it.

However drastic it might get, whatever condition a person might be in, there is always a ray of hope to turn things around. What can be done to come out of this state or help someone do so? Coming up in the next write up. Stay tuned. Aho! 💚💚💚

Victimhood. A serious matter. Part 3

While the perks of being are many, it definitely is not a healthy state to be in, mentally, physically and emotionally. Knowingly or unknowingly, being addicted to the state of victimhood can block progress and growth in all areas of life.

How do you know if you are or someone you know, is falling into the trap of being addicted to victimhood? Well, from the previous two posts, you may have understood, it isn't that diffucult to make out. However these points can help you in deciphering the same.

1. You definitely enjoy all the attention and sympathy you get while playing the victim.

2. You don't want to learn from your past/mistakes. You become totally ignorant to the fact that there can be an important learning for you embedded in those situations.

3. You feel sad and bad about everything. Your emotional intelligence alomst comes down to zero and even the smallest of joke hits you hard.

4. You feel targeted all the time. You feel people are always planning and plotting against you.

5. People start to maintain a distance from you after a while. Because honestly, no one wants to hear sad stories all the time.

6. You like to be alone too and constantly find yourself thinking about the same thing again and again. You like to replay the past in your mind over and over and feel bad about it.

7. You keep questioning "why me?" all the time. You feel people aren't caring enough inspite of you doing so much for them.

8. You feel people don't care. You feel no one appreciates you and you develop low self confidence and battered self esteem.

9. Physically, you feel dull and tired. You feel drained most of the time. There is no energy in your body and you aren't excited about anything. Or feel you don't have anything to look forward to.

10. You cannot help but talk more negative than positive. All you have to offer is warnings and more warnings to people around you. Because you feel you should keep them away from the same hurt and pain you have gone through.

While some of you would resonate with all the points, some of you may see yourself only doing certain things. Please understand, its okay to feel all that is mentioned above. But not to the point that you get entangled in those ways.

Each one of us feels all or some of these things some time or the other. However, it is truly in your hands alone to get stuck or move out of that zone and be an example to many others. Tell you what! There are many out there who have gone through worse and still have managed to lead a happy and healthy life. You are not alone. If others can do it, so can you.

Victimhood is a serious matter. Much deeper than what we can fathom. Both physically and emotionally. What happens if you stay in that ebergy for long and what can you do about it? Coming up in the next write up. Aho! 💙💙💙